How To Know If You Are With The Right Person

Okay okay! I know you’re head over heels in love with your partner and you’ve been in a relationship for a while. High five! But hey, you’re suffering in silence, totally unsure of what exactly you’re doing or where your love journey is going to lead and you’re not doing anything about it? I’m taking my high-five back. We all have that one person we have strong feelings for, that person we see as perfect and can go any length for. No one is against that truly, but you need to re-evaluate your relationship. Being in a relationship without a plan is like traveling in a strange town without a road map. Eventually, you would get lost.

Lately, have you asked yourself any of these questions?

  • Am I really in love or am I here for other reasons?

If you are in a relationship and you’re not in love, I’m sorry for you.

  • Do I see myself having a future with my partner?

My evergreen quote: “A relationship without a purpose is a burden.”

  • Do I completely trust my partner?

Trust is fundamental. You’d give yourself a heart attack if this is lacking.

  • Do we totally accept each other’s view and beliefs?

Religious and moral views should be compatible. This would be a major issue if not now, later. Trust me.

  • Is there communication in this relationship?

Communication is key. If you’re not talking, what in God’s name are you doing?

  • Is my spouse supportive, even in the ugliest of situations?

A non-supportive spouse is equal to no spouse. Being single is way better!

  • When was the last time we had a reasonable conversation?

Don’t just talk about fantasies, dreams and what not. You’re a couple. Be matured.

  • Are there more sad memories than happy ones?

This is not a good sign. I’m not saying you both have to be happy-go-lucky all the way. If this applies to you, fix it ASAP.

  • Does my opinion matter to my spouse?

You’re in a relationship not in Adolf Hilter’s regime. If your opinion doesn’t matter, you don’t matter.

  • Am I proud of my spouse?

Please, this is important. Can you introduce your spouse to your family without sweating? Can you comfortably go out with your spouse without fidgeting? Most of all, can you defend your spouse in public when he/she is talked about in the most unflattering manner?

There are a 101 questions you should interrogate yourself with. Start with these basic ones. If you’re still confused afterwards, you need to make a decision. There’s really no time to waste. Can you confidently answer these questions positively? If so, I feel glad for you. There’s still a lot of work to be done, love is not enough.


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